is sex, love, family, cuddling, laughing, comfort
feeling good
i’ve put so much work into finding a good job because i thought that was the key to happiness
but it’s not. even if i have the shittiest job in the world, i can still be happy.
Reasons To Get Married: Is Marriage A Form Of Peer Pressure?
This is a must-read article for everyone — hetero or not, monogamous or not, interested in marriage or not. It’s important when making major life choices to sort out what might be best for you in your life, rather than reflexively reverting to social defaults.
One of the main reasons I’ve long been out as polyamorous is that I think it’s important for people to see that *people they know* are poly, so they’re aware there are viable choices in relationship structure and less likely to dismiss or judge out of hand.
…I know, the privilege associated with adhering to social defaults is compelling and hard to give up — but over time, trying to conform your life and feelings to society’s expectations (or stepping outside those dictates only surreptitiously or deceptively) extracts a heavy toll.
Best part is the last paragraph:
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A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have the integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to stand alone. And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives without any strings attached to it. When two mature persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Only freedom and love."
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. ~Lao-Tse
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Glamour Magazine Body Size Stereotypes Survey:
What the Glamour Magazine poll shows about the assumptions women hold
Heavy women are pegged as…
“lazy” 11 times as often as thin women; “sloppy” nine times; “undisciplined” seven times; “slow” six times as often.
While thin women are seen as…
“conceited” or “superficial” about eight times as often as heavy women; “vain” or “self-centered” four times as often; and “bitchy,” “mean,” or “controlling” more than twice as often.
Even the “good” labels are unfair.
An overweight woman may be five times as likely to be perceived as “giving” as a skinny one. “But it just fits into the stereotype that thin women are not that way,” explains Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D. “It’s still putting women in a box based on their body size.”
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This is so interesting… and really sad. The fact that heavy women ALSO judge heavy women and thin women judge other thin women is so disheartening.
Hopefully places like Stop Hating Your Body can help change this even a little bit at a time…
(click on the image for the entire article, it is worth the read!)
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This book is terrible. I originally saw it featured on the Dr. Oz show and now I can’t imagine why he was so into it. I also now can’t imagine why I was watching Dr. Oz. Clearly not a reputable man.
The story is about a generic, shy, lacking-in-confidence girl who loves to read and also happens to be the unsuspecting love interest of a bunch of hot guys. One of the hot guys is a stereotypical alpha male super rich “Dominant” who’s all into bondage and “discipline.” The virginal narrator is lead like a sheep to slaughter into all kinds of detailed BDSM play.
Let me tell you how poorly the book is written, with a bit of unfortunate foreshadowing: As I started reading, I thought of the worst book I’d ever read in my adult life, Twilight, and decided that this was about ten times worse. The careless, lackadaisical tone I’m writing in right now? The book amplifies that. By a lot. In a really non-endearing way. There are weird continuity errors that are so sloppy, I can only imagine the author took a break from writing after every few sentences, waited a few weeks until she forgot minor details of the story, and then began writing again without reading over what she’d already done. There were also really obvious typos. Was it not edited before being published?
I kept forgetting the story took place in the United States because there is an overbearing British voice behind the narration involving the words “pram” and “sorted.” I decided the appeal must be due to the sex parts but then I read those and they’re really no different from a ton of other smutty novels. So I just don’t get it. If you want to find out more about BDSM, get a book on BDSM. Not this. Because this turned out to be…
…TWILIGHT FAN FICTION.
Gah. Okay, so technically it’s only BASED on Twilight fan fiction. But still. I looked around the internet to find out how people could like it when it was so terrible and discovered that it’s basically a story originally published as “Master of the Universe” which some Twilight fan wrote to combine erotica and vampires (because that was a totally untapped market). The names and whatever were changed so it wouldn’t be fan fiction and whatever. Whatever. So bad. Don’t read it.
Realistic thesis goal: re-run and analyze all participants by July.
Finish 8 books, making my Goodreads total 12.
Sell some stuff on Etsy. Decide if it’s a viable way to make money.
Finish gathering content for zine.
Lose 15 pounds.
Within next two weeks: answer all currently unanswered pen pal letters.
4/28 war on women rally body message
4/28 war on women rally body message
