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Giant List of Resources
I originally compiled this list of resources for a group of teens I was working with for a year in California. When our year together was up, I wanted to make sure they still had access to support and information about potentially sensitive issues if they ever needed it. I gave each of them this list of websites and hotlines for help with things like bullying, sexual health, addiction, depression, and domestic violence. Most things on the list are targeted toward teens, but many could be helpful or informative to anyone. I don’t know why I didn’t think to put it up before now, but I hope that it is useful to someone.
(I made the list in 2011 but as far as I know all the information is still valid.)
I’m not as active as I once was but for the next few weeks I’ll be even less active. I’ll be working on the visuals for a music video and have decided to avoid everything and focus only on that.
I was going to open up various commission spots tomorrow in celebration of Cyber Monday but at this moment it’s not an option. I’ll see how much progress I make and decide then if I’ll be able to do that. If one of you do want to seriously contact me about a commissioned piece though and want it before the holidays feel free to contact me, I could use the extra dough and distraction.
Before I dip how about a little giveaway? New icon so that means I’ll be giving away the original. Like, reply, reblog — each worth an entry. An additional entry for every retweet of this post. I’ll choose a winner at random tomorrow night [7pm est, make sure your ask is open for shipping details.]
Speaking of retweet, I will be very active via twitter. If you’re ever curious of my whereabouts feel free to follow along: @excusememister.
Hope you all had a lovely weekend and once again thank you so very much for the support. It honestly means the world.
31 days of Halloween ( Horror | Mystery | Thriller Movies )
31/31 - The Innocents (1961)
Enter, my lord.
Come from your prison.
Come from your grave.
For the moon is arisen.
Welcome, my lord.
I’ve been feeling REEEEEEEEEEEEEAL bad lately, mostly because things at home are spiraling further and further into the nightmares of my childhood and also because the few things I put so much stock in to help me get out of this situation are constantly becoming more distant and unattainable.
The weird part is that I never have really asked anyone for help or spilled all my gorey emotions and problems out on anyone in my entire life. And now that I am, I’m getting really, painfully lackluster responses from the people I care about most and who I thought cared about me. And I’m wondering if I can’t rely on them or turn to them for help, who can I rely on or turn to? (Besides myself, of course.) I’m so used to dealing with things on my own that it’s like depression on top of depression that I can’t help myself this time. I actually need someone else.
But, also, amidst all these bad feelings and situations, my faith in humanity is being restored because a few unexpected people have come out of the woodwork to offer me what they can. These few people aren’t people that I consider myself to be very close to but they’re still willing to help me. And that’s pretty cool. And I think I should start making some changes regarding the people that I am close to.
Also, this article helped me out today: http://rookiemag.com/2012/09/saving-yoursel/
Rookie, you have an uncanny knack for posting the right things at the right times.
is that i will forever be drawn to people who are barely responsive to me
what i want from life
is sex, love, family, cuddling, laughing, comfort
i’ve put so much work into finding a good job because i thought that was the key to happiness
but it’s not. even if i have the shittiest job in the world, i can still be happy.
"The peer pressure to marry doesn’t necessarily suggest a problem with marriage itself, but a lack of other cultural models. This results in a lot of people choosing marital and family structures by default rather than by intention — a kind of compulsory monogamy. If I were advising young adults today, I would tell them to seek out people who have set up their relationships and lives in a variety of ways, including traditional monogamous marriage. I would tell them to pursue diverse sexual experiences and explore their sexual orientations before committing to monogamy, or consider relationship structures in which continued exploration could be on the table. I would tell them that marriage is hard — incredibly hard. But, I would have to add that the best things in life inevitably are. I don’t regret getting married, but as I make the decision each day to remain married, I believe I’m doing it with greater and greater intention as I glance down more of the roads not taken and realize what it is I’ve actually chosen, and what I’ve given up."
Reasons To Get Married: Is Marriage A Form Of Peer Pressure?
This is a must-read article for everyone — hetero or not, monogamous or not, interested in marriage or not. It’s important when making major life choices to sort out what might be best for you in your life, rather than reflexively reverting to social defaults.
One of the main reasons I’ve long been out as polyamorous is that I think it’s important for people to see that *people they know* are poly, so they’re aware there are viable choices in relationship structure and less likely to dismiss or judge out of hand.
…I know, the privilege associated with adhering to social defaults is compelling and hard to give up — but over time, trying to conform your life and feelings to society’s expectations (or stepping outside those dictates only surreptitiously or deceptively) extracts a heavy toll.
Best part is the last paragraph:
"Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have the integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to stand alone. And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives without any strings attached to it. When two mature persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Only freedom and love."