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Giant List of Resources

Thu, 20 Dec 2012 21:41:49 -0500

I originally compiled this list of resources for a group of teens I was working with for a year in California. When our year together was up, I wanted to make sure they still had access to support and information about potentially sensitive issues if they ever needed it. I gave each of them this list of websites and hotlines for help with things like bullying, sexual health, addiction, depression, and domestic violence. Most things on the list are targeted toward teens, but many could be helpful or informative to anyone. I don’t know why I didn’t think to put it up before now, but I hope that it is useful to someone.

(I made the list in 2011 but as far as I know all the information is still valid.)

Websites

CONNECTING

http://teenlineonline.org/

Message board, resources, and online chat with trained helpline teens.

http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org

Resources, online chat, and real stories.

http://www.reachout.com

Real stories, teen issues fact sheets, resources, and advice.

http://www.teenhelp.org

Support forums and online magazine.

ONLINE ISSUES

http://www.athinline.org/

Information on cyberbullying, sexting, and digital stalking.

http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/

Cyberbullying prevention website.

BULLYING

http://www.stopbullying.gov/

How to deal with being bullied and how to take a stand against bullying.

http://www.stompoutbullying.org/

Bullying prevention website.

http://www.ncvc.org/tvp

Teen Victim Project bullying and harassment website.

http://www.pacerteensagainstbullying.org

How to identify and respond to bullying.

http://www.ihollaback.org/

Website with the mission to stop street harassment.

MENTAL HEALTH

http://mindcheck.ca

Information on depression, anxiety, and stress and how to know when to get help.

http://us.reachout.com/

Facts about anxiety, depression, eating disorders, self-injury, loss and grief, violence, and other mental health issues with real stories from teens.

http://www.copecaredeal.org

Information on caring for yourself and learning how to cope with strong emotions.

GENERAL HEALTH

http://teenshealth.org/

Information on physical and mental health, fitness, nutrition, skin care, and puberty.

http://www.girlshealth.gov/

Information on relationships, feelings, safety, puberty, nutrition, and fitness.

http://teens.webmd.com/

Information on your mind, your body, and your relationships, ranging from anxiety to parties to bad breath.

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/

Information on fitness and nutrition, emotional health, drugs and alcohol, sexuality, and relationships.

http://www.mypyramid.gov/

Nutritional and healthy eating information.

DRUGS, ALCOHOL, & ADDICTION

http://www.hbo.com/addiction/

Understanding addiction and options for getting help.

http://act.mtv.com/take-action-substance-abuse/

MTV website with information about substance abuse and how to get help for yourself or someone you know.

http://www.al-anon.org/for-alateen/

Support and help for teen family members and friends of alcoholics.

SEXUAL HEALTH

http://www.itsyoursexlife.com/

MTV website on sexually transmitted diseases and forms of protection.

http://www.sexetc.org/

Sex education website for teens.

http://www.teensource.org

Sexual health information for teens including information on STDs and birth control.

http://www.scarleteen.com/

Information on sexuality, relationships, body image, and reproductive health.

http://www.yesmeansyes.com/

Canadian site about consent and sexual rights.

http://www.avert.org/teens.htm

Information about sex, puberty, and relationships.

http://www.stayteen.org/

MTV’s teen pregnancy prevention website.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

Information about sex and access to clinics providing sexual and reproductive health care and contraception.

http://www.thehelpline.org/

Pregnancy support for teens.

DOMESTIC & DATING VIOLENCE

http://www.thehotline.org/

Domestic violence information and resources.

http://loveisnotabuse.com/

Dating violence information, resources, and help.

http://www.breakthecycle.org/

Information and resources on domestic and dating violence.

http://www.loveisrespect.org/

Dating violence resources and help.

http://www.thesafespace.org/

Help on stopping and preventing dating violence.

http://www.thatsnotcool.com/

How to know if your relationship is abusive and what to do if it is.

http://www.operationforhope.org/

Domestic and dating violence resources and information on healthy relationships.

SEXUAL ASSAULT

http://www.rainn.org/

Rape, abuse, and incest information, help, and online hotline.

LGBT

http://www.thetrevorproject.org/

LGBTQ youth suicide prevention website with live online help and Question & Answer resources.

http://www.itgetsbetter.org/

LGBT youth support website with hundreds of videos.

http://www.makeitbetterproject.org/

LGBT youth bullying prevention website.

SUICIDE

https://www.imalive.org/

Online crisis network with live intervention.

http://www.loveislouder.com/

Suicide prevention website with celebrity videos.

http://www.halfofus.com

Help and assessment tool for individuals considering suicide.

http://www.befrienders.org/

Suicide information, resources, and how to help someone who is considering suicide.

OTHER

http://www.calyouth.org/

Youth advocacy, connection to youth resources in California, and blog written by teens.

http://www.girlsinc-online.org/

Website for girls regarding identity, self-esteem, and what it means to be a girl.

http://teenadvice.about.com/

Advice about dating, friends, family, school, money, and more.

http://www.dosomething.org/

Connection to volunteer and service opportunities and information on starting a club and creating change. Scholarships available.

http://www.rookie.com/

Amazing website full of advice, support, craft ideas, empowering articles, sisterly love, etc.

http://www.volunteermatch.org/

Search tool for finding volunteer opportunities.

http://www.learntobe.org/

Free online tutoring.

http://www.collegeboard.org/

Information on going to college, choosing a school, taking the PSAT and SAT, and AP classes.

http://www.finaid.org/

Guide to getting financial aid for college. Includes a scholarship search tool.

http://www.snagajob.com/teen-jobs/

Search tool to find teen jobs and information on working as a teen.

http://www.teenink.com/

Magazine and website written by teens with poetry, fiction, nonfiction, and art.

http://www.1800runawaybb.org/

Forum to discuss family issues, relationships, and concerns about running away.

Hotlines

HELPLINES

Youth American Hotline

1-877-YOUTHLINE

Teen to teen peer counseling.

Teen Line

1-800-852-8336

Teen to teen peer support line.

Teen Crisis Line

1-888-247-7717

National Youth Crisis Line

1-800-843-5300

SUICIDE

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-TALK

National Suicide Hotline

1-800-SUICIDE

1-800-SUICIDA (Español)

The Trevor Lifeline (LGBT Youth)

866-4-U-TREVOR

Boys Town National Hotline

1-800-448-3000

Teen Line

1-800-TLC-TEEN

Teen to teen peer crisis counseling.

Friends for Survival National Help Line

(800) 646-7322

Support for those who have lost someone to suicide.

SELF-INJURY

Self Abuse Finally Ends Information Hotline

1-800-DONT-CUT

DOMESTIC & DATING VIOLENCE

National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline
1-866-331-9474

Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-978-3600

Referrals to resources and shelters.

Operation for Hope Foundation Helpline

1-888-HOPE-08

Battered Women’s Support Network

1-800-572-2782

SEXUAL ASSAULT

National Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-HOPE

Children of the Night Teen Prostitution Helpline

1-800-551-1300

SUBSTANCE ABUSE

Alcohol and Drug Helpline

1-800-527-5344

Treatment Referral Hotline
1-800-662-HELP

National Institute on Drug Abuse Hotline

1-800-662-4357

Information about substance abuse and referrals for treatment.

Al-A-Teen

1-888-425-2666

Support for teens whose relatives or friends suffer from alcohol or drug addiction.

CHILD ABUSE

National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-CHILD

EATING DISORDERS

National Eating Disorders Information and Referral Helpline

1-800-931-2237

Anorexia Helpline

1-630-577-1330

GENERAL HEALTH

Teen Health Resource Line

1-888-711-TEEN

Confidential health information for teens.

LGBT

Lyric Youth Talkline

800-246-PRIDE

Health and sexuality information and peer support.

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, & Transgender Hotline

888-THE-GLNH

RUNNING AWAY

National Runaway Switchboard

1-800-RUNAWAY

National Runaway Hotline

1-800-621-4000

chaystar: Oh I’ve already seen th—- OH MY FUKCKING GOD

Wed, 12 Dec 2012 00:17:57 -0500

chaystar:

Oh I’ve already seen th—-

OH MY FUKCKING GOD

jenyffermaria: I’m not as active as I once was but for the next...

Sun, 25 Nov 2012 21:17:21 -0500

jenyffermaria:

I’m not as active as I once was but for the next few weeks I’ll be even less active. I’ll be working on the visuals for a music video and have decided to avoid everything and focus only on that.

I was going to open up various commission spots tomorrow in celebration of Cyber Monday but at this moment it’s not an option. I’ll see how much progress I make and decide then if I’ll be able to do that. If one of you do want to seriously contact me about a commissioned piece though and want it before the holidays feel free to contact me, I could use the extra dough and distraction.

Before I dip how about a little giveaway? New icon so that means I’ll be giving away the original. Like, reply, reblog — each worth an entry. An additional entry for every retweet of this post. I’ll choose a winner at random tomorrow night [7pm est, make sure your ask is open for shipping details.]

Speaking of retweet, I will be very active via twitter. If you’re ever curious of my whereabouts feel free to follow along: @excusememister.

Hope you all had a lovely weekend and once again thank you so very much for the support. It honestly means the world.

x

ohne-dich: 31 days of Halloween ( Horror | Mystery | Thriller...

Wed, 31 Oct 2012 18:17:55 -0400

ohne-dich:

31 days of Halloween ( Horror | Mystery | Thriller Movies )

31/31 - The Innocents (1961)

Enter, my lord.
Come from your prison.
Come from your grave.
For the moon is arisen.
Welcome, my lord.

thefeministbookclub: WORD, LOL. (jj)

Sat, 29 Sep 2012 01:14:21 -0400

thefeministbookclub:

WORD, LOL. (jj)

I’ve been feeling REEEEEEEEEEEEEAL bad lately, mostly because things at home are spiraling...

Wed, 19 Sep 2012 22:00:52 -0400

I’ve been feeling REEEEEEEEEEEEEAL bad lately, mostly because things at home are spiraling further and further into the nightmares of my childhood and also because the few things I put so much stock in to help me get out of this situation are constantly becoming more distant and unattainable.

The weird part is that I never have really asked anyone for help or spilled all my gorey emotions and problems out on anyone in my entire life. And now that I am, I’m getting really, painfully lackluster responses from the people I care about most and who I thought cared about me. And I’m wondering if I can’t rely on them or turn to them for help, who can I rely on or turn to? (Besides myself, of course.) I’m so used to dealing with things on my own that it’s like depression on top of depression that I can’t help myself this time. I actually need someone else.

But, also, amidst all these bad feelings and situations, my faith in humanity is being restored because a few unexpected people have come out of the woodwork to offer me what they can. These few people aren’t people that I consider myself to be very close to but they’re still willing to help me. And that’s pretty cool. And I think I should start making some changes regarding the people that I am close to.

Also, this article helped me out today: http://rookiemag.com/2012/09/saving-yoursel/

Rookie, you have an uncanny knack for posting the right things at the right times.

clareer: #foul #robots (Taken with instagram)

Sun, 13 May 2012 03:11:08 -0400

clareer:

#foul #robots (Taken with instagram)

my weakness

Sun, 13 May 2012 00:04:12 -0400

is that i will forever be drawn to people who are barely responsive to me

Why I Am A Girl

Sun, 13 May 2012 00:01:27 -0400

Why I Am A Girl

what i want from life

Sat, 12 May 2012 03:35:54 -0400

is sex, love, family, cuddling, laughing, comfort

feeling good

i’ve put so much work into finding a good job because i thought that was the key to happiness

but it’s not. even if i have the shittiest job in the world, i can still be happy.

"The peer pressure to marry doesn’t necessarily suggest a problem with marriage itself, but a lack of..."

Sat, 12 May 2012 03:20:33 -0400

“The peer pressure to marry doesn’t necessarily suggest a problem with marriage itself, but a lack of other cultural models. This results in a lot of people choosing marital and family structures by default rather than by intention — a kind of compulsory monogamy. If I were advising young adults today, I would tell them to seek out people who have set up their relationships and lives in a variety of ways, including traditional monogamous marriage. I would tell them to pursue diverse sexual experiences and explore their sexual orientations before committing to monogamy, or consider relationship structures in which continued exploration could be on the table. I would tell them that marriage is hard — incredibly hard. But, I would have to add that the best things in life inevitably are. I don’t regret getting married, but as I make the decision each day to remain married, I believe I’m doing it with greater and greater intention as I glance down more of the roads not taken and realize what it is I’ve actually chosen, and what I’ve given up.”

- Reasons To Get Married: Is Marriage A Form Of Peer Pressure?

This is a must-read article for everyone — hetero or not, monogamous or not, interested in marriage or not. It’s important when making major life choices to sort out what might be best for you in your life, rather than reflexively reverting to social defaults.

One of the main reasons I’ve long been out as polyamorous is that I think it’s important for people to see that *people they know* are poly, so they’re aware there are viable choices in relationship structure and less likely to dismiss or judge out of hand.

…I know, the privilege associated with adhering to social defaults is compelling and hard to give up — but over time, trying to conform your life and feelings to society’s expectations (or stepping outside those dictates only surreptitiously or deceptively) extracts a heavy toll.

Best part is the last paragraph:

(via amygahran)

"Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison...."

Sat, 12 May 2012 03:18:19 -0400

“Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.

A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have the integrity to stand alone.

A mature person has the integrity to stand alone. And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives without any strings attached to it. When two mature persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Only freedom and love.”

- Osho (via daughtersofdilla) Ayoooo….. (via jonubian)

Supple like Water, Fertile like the Earth, Curvy like Life

Sat, 12 May 2012 03:12:14 -0400

eatmangoesnekkid:

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. ~Lao-Tse

Photo

Sat, 12 May 2012 03:06:46 -0400

Photo

Mon, 07 May 2012 17:08:53 -0400

stophatingyourbody: wheeliewifee: Glamour Magazine Body Size...

Mon, 07 May 2012 00:53:11 -0400

stophatingyourbody:

wheeliewifee:

Glamour Magazine Body Size Stereotypes Survey:

What the Glamour Magazine poll shows about the assumptions women hold

Heavy women are pegged as…

“lazy” 11 times as often as thin women; “sloppy” nine times; “undisciplined” seven times; “slow” six times as often.

While thin women are seen as…

“conceited” or “superficial” about eight times as often as heavy women; “vain” or “self-centered” four times as often; and “bitchy,” “mean,” or “controlling” more than twice as often.

Even the “good” labels are unfair.

An overweight woman may be five times as likely to be perceived as “giving” as a skinny one. “But it just fits into the stereotype that thin women are not that way,” explains Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D. “It’s still putting women in a box based on their body size.”

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This is so interesting… and really sad. The fact that heavy women ALSO judge heavy women and thin women judge other thin women is so disheartening.

Hopefully places like Stop Hating Your Body can help change this even a little bit at a time…

(click on the image for the entire article, it is worth the read!)

my review of 50 shades of grey

Sat, 05 May 2012 03:31:38 -0400

This book is terrible. I originally saw it featured on the Dr. Oz show and now I can’t imagine why he was so into it. I also now can’t imagine why I was watching Dr. Oz. Clearly not a reputable man.

The story is about a generic, shy, lacking-in-confidence girl who loves to read and also happens to be the unsuspecting love interest of a bunch of hot guys. One of the hot guys is a stereotypical alpha male super rich “Dominant” who’s all into bondage and “discipline.” The virginal narrator is lead like a sheep to slaughter into all kinds of detailed BDSM play.

Let me tell you how poorly the book is written, with a bit of unfortunate foreshadowing: As I started reading, I thought of the worst book I’d ever read in my adult life, Twilight, and decided that this was about ten times worse. The careless, lackadaisical tone I’m writing in right now? The book amplifies that. By a lot. In a really non-endearing way. There are weird continuity errors that are so sloppy, I can only imagine the author took a break from writing after every few sentences, waited a few weeks until she forgot minor details of the story, and then began writing again without reading over what she’d already done. There were also really obvious typos. Was it not edited before being published?

I kept forgetting the story took place in the United States because there is an overbearing British voice behind the narration involving the words “pram” and “sorted.” I decided the appeal must be due to the sex parts but then I read those and they’re really no different from a ton of other smutty novels. So I just don’t get it. If you want to find out more about BDSM, get a book on BDSM. Not this. Because this turned out to be…

…TWILIGHT FAN FICTION.

Gah. Okay, so technically it’s only BASED on Twilight fan fiction. But still. I looked around the internet to find out how people could like it when it was so terrible and discovered that it’s basically a story originally published as “Master of the Universe” which some Twilight fan wrote to combine erotica and vampires (because that was a totally untapped market). The names and whatever were changed so it wouldn’t be fan fiction and whatever. Whatever. So bad. Don’t read it.

GOALZZ for the next few months

Sat, 05 May 2012 02:43:46 -0400

Realistic thesis goal: re-run and analyze all participants by July.

Finish 8 books, making my Goodreads total 12.

Sell some stuff on Etsy. Decide if it’s a viable way to make money.

Finish gathering content for zine.

Lose 15 pounds.

Within next two weeks: answer all currently unanswered pen pal letters.

4/28 war on women rally body message

Sun, 29 Apr 2012 00:16:18 -0400

4/28 war on women rally body message